tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19727179.post5285594035234343925..comments2023-10-30T08:31:57.729-06:00Comments on Tate R Bug: RAW EMOTIONS.... UPDATEDLisa and Tatehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05297382979646286309noreply@blogger.comBlogger29125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19727179.post-15025510991946340142009-04-13T11:29:00.000-06:002009-04-13T11:29:00.000-06:00Lisa- You have always been one of the most wonder...Lisa-<BR/> You have always been one of the most wonderful people I have ever known. It was always sucha treat for you to be at our family parties! You have sucha AMAZING presence of wonderful and sweetness that I KNOW you will be an AMAZING Mommy. Tate is soooo very lucky! And becoming a Mommy is sooo overwhelming, but the tender touch and loving gaze of your baby makes everything all better and soooo worth it! Don't worry, your Mommy instincts will kick in and you'll know just what to do! I couldn't even take care of myself when I got pregnant and when my sweet angel came to me, everything just fell into place and I have a happy wonderful little boy who I am very proud of! Even if everything else falls apart, you'll always have each other :) LOVE YOU!!! XoXoLesley Gustavson Kitenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19727179.post-18506049165567657502009-03-09T10:36:00.000-06:002009-03-09T10:36:00.000-06:00Hi Lisa,Just have to chime in and say that you are...Hi Lisa,<BR/>Just have to chime in and say that you are feeling what so many have felt. We were all thinking, "what am I doing?" too! All that will fade away with the joy that it coming into your world soon. It's going to be so wonderful and your only thought will be what it I hadn't gone through with this...and that will be unthinkable.<BR/>Now I've seen alot of nesting projects, but I think your hardwood floors have everyone beat. I'd say you are in full prep for baby mode now.<BR/>All our love and support is with you however you feel in the next two months. We just can't wait to see that blessed little face one your blog.Christi and Abbeyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04091999138906723996noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19727179.post-25018088726006342552009-03-08T22:46:00.000-06:002009-03-08T22:46:00.000-06:00Lisa,Don't be scared. You've been gearing up for ...Lisa,<BR/><BR/>Don't be scared. You've been gearing up for this and preparing in countless ways your whole life. You will do great! You have all the skills you need to be a great mom, plus you have friends and family for your cheerleaders. <BR/><BR/>Everyone else is right - it's normal to get a little jittery (heck, I still do, and look at me!) but you'll hit the ground running and have a wonderful life!Tanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09206083606671114056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19727179.post-23429131710167309292009-03-07T14:18:00.000-07:002009-03-07T14:18:00.000-07:00Still terrified. =) But loving (almost) every minu...Still terrified. =) But loving (almost) every minute of it! HUGS.Shannonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08495041727747605688noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19727179.post-3668983885286908412009-03-07T12:19:00.000-07:002009-03-07T12:19:00.000-07:00I hit the, "OMG, could this possibly be happening ...I hit the, "OMG, could this possibly be happening and am I crazy?" feelings. I think that everything you are feeling is completely normal and all the fear and doubt will be replaced with joy and anticipation after you see the face of Tate. We're in for a long month.....t~https://www.blogger.com/profile/16661748211204975504noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19727179.post-42251152830636796302009-03-06T10:09:00.000-07:002009-03-06T10:09:00.000-07:00I think most of us experienced all the things you ...I think most of us experienced all the things you are feeling. It IS terrifying. But take it from another older single mom...you will be fine and motherhood is worth all of the waiting and agony. Hang in there!Donnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17589673546866265218noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19727179.post-24336311378148074792009-03-06T06:52:00.000-07:002009-03-06T06:52:00.000-07:00I was really, really scared to be a first time mom...I was really, really scared to be a first time mom. I wasn't sure if I was up to the challenge. I guess you just have to jump in the deep end and start swimming. Briana is such a happy girl - so I must be doing something right (though I have made plenty of my share of mistakes!) You'll be amazed at how much instinct kicks in. I promise. :)Briana's Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11160431869695128577noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19727179.post-32305687683185788092009-03-05T22:05:00.000-07:002009-03-05T22:05:00.000-07:00I'm sending you a hug.....I'm sending you a hug.....Kaycehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01473905322257543749noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19727179.post-68948822953458676602009-03-05T21:09:00.000-07:002009-03-05T21:09:00.000-07:00I think all of those feelings are totally normal. ...I think all of those feelings are totally normal. <BR/><BR/>You are going to be a fantastic Mom!<BR/><BR/>You are NEXT! Woo hoo!!Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17310806020847827430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19727179.post-33959111097007597072009-03-05T20:29:00.000-07:002009-03-05T20:29:00.000-07:00I can relate to numb - and I can say that you deal...I can relate to numb - and I can say that you deal with what comes your way as a single mama. Laundry, dishes, snow shoveling, etc... it's all second fiddle to your little one. Let the spirit of your heart guide you when you see Tate - and don't let first impressions of your view of that picture haunt you. When i first saw M, my initial reaction was... "OMG, she's cross-eyed" Now of course she wasn't but her referral pictured made her look like she was. Life is about to change. You will have ups and downs you willl have lots of energy and absolutely no energy. Bottom line you do what you do and you ask for help when you need it and you grow in love with your baby. :) Peace friend.Tracyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09127112224785253882noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19727179.post-83569625830723162042009-03-05T20:27:00.000-07:002009-03-05T20:27:00.000-07:00All perfectly normal feelings for such a life chan...All perfectly normal feelings for such a life changing event that is about to happen, Maybe too after all the waiting you are still protecting your heart? The limbo we are in while we wait really plays on you.<BR/><BR/>Wait till you see Miss Tate :)<BR/>(((BIG HUGS)))Abby's Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00445279190964485498noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19727179.post-41387247226004280402009-03-05T19:43:00.000-07:002009-03-05T19:43:00.000-07:00Big Hug......I will tell you that we too missed th...Big Hug......<BR/>I will tell you that we too missed the cut off by one day! Now I thank Jesus we missed the cutoff. For we needed to be in the matching room at the exact moment our Hannah was ready to be matched to us.....<BR/>All fo these emotions are so natural!!!! The panic with the realization of being a Mommy to your precious child... you will do just fine... you already are a wonderful Mommy! Yes, you will mess up... we all do! But God's grace gets you and your child through... and most importantly.... she will be loved... oh, how she will be loved.<BR/>God's Speed...Jewels of My Hearthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12955029706756769653noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19727179.post-10254899853259094832009-03-05T18:07:00.000-07:002009-03-05T18:07:00.000-07:00Hang in there. We all love you!Hang in there. We all love you!laurelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13051765178387344518noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19727179.post-67752286558222691592009-03-05T17:50:00.000-07:002009-03-05T17:50:00.000-07:00Yes - it is NORMAL to feel this way. You should h...Yes - it is NORMAL to feel this way. You should have seen the posts in the RQ Feb room before we got referrals. A whole bunch of terrified PAPs - even second timers.<BR/><BR/>Tough it out. Once you have been home with Tate for a month NORMAL will be having this little one in your life, and you will KNOW you can do it.KHMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17327144575741255237noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19727179.post-65069709063891973562009-03-05T16:48:00.000-07:002009-03-05T16:48:00.000-07:00I have been a parent for 12 yrs....I still remain ...I have been a parent for 12 yrs....I still remain terrified and doubtful. I learn to live one day at a time....they were fine today, let's see how tomorrow goes, etc....You remember that the baby ate mac and cheese and loved it...can you make mac and cheese everyday for 2 months?......this is mommyhood....I have followed your blog for at least 2 yrs. I believe you will be really great as a Mom. You can go with the flow and you have great priorities. I am having even stronger feelings of terror and doubt with our new addition coming. I don't know how to parent boys, will I be able to handle 3 children?, is that behavior adoption related or is he just being 2?<BR/><BR/>Get ready for mommyhood, its a wonderful ride.shelleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10054790889751068095noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19727179.post-16138988377576864102009-03-05T16:37:00.000-07:002009-03-05T16:37:00.000-07:00Yep, you are tracking right about on target for a ...Yep, you are tracking right about on target for a referal with all of these feelings.<BR/>Just a warning - I felt the same, then the elation of referal and then... those same feelings came back just as I was ready to hop a plane. <BR/>You are totally normal and totally ready for Tate.<BR/>Your going to be a great Mom.Ginnyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13783099282801288558noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19727179.post-82360009117314833822009-03-05T13:22:00.000-07:002009-03-05T13:22:00.000-07:00Lisa - Your feelings are totally normal and I warn...Lisa - Your feelings are totally normal and I warn you that it might not change even once you see your daughter. I still vividly remember sitting the hotel room in China crying and asking what did I do (for myself and my daugther). However, now that I am almost to my one year anniversary I wouldn't do differently if I had the chance to do it over. Some days are extremely challenging as a single parent. Also, I learned to let a lot of stuff go.... the laundry, the dishes, etc and just concentrate on being happy for me and my wonderful little family. I can tell you will be an awesome mom and don't let anyone tell you otherwise (or even tell yourself otherwise).Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10439928030851509176noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19727179.post-36021540482733770552009-03-05T10:56:00.000-07:002009-03-05T10:56:00.000-07:00I feel those same things once in a while now. I t...I feel those same things once in a while now. I think it's just nerves...I would worry about someone who never questioned if they would be a good mother. Self-reflection is a very good thing and to admit what you feel is a sign of a healthy mind. I know people who don't do this and you can tell! You will do awesome with Tate. You will be the mom you want to be...but just as well you will make mistakes and it is OKAY! No one is perfect, I've learned this being thrown into mama stage at Lyssa being age 5. It will be hard sometimes, but it is so worth it. Hope this makes sense.Susiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13874036299825779278noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19727179.post-55317795787472802192009-03-05T10:45:00.000-07:002009-03-05T10:45:00.000-07:00Lisa, your feelings are absolutely normal. M3 nai...Lisa, your feelings are absolutely normal. M3 nailed it: I remember feeling exactly the same thing as I looked down at my HUGE belly and worried about raising a baby alone (husband left me when I was preggers). But there was no turning back and a few weeks after becoming a mom for the first time, I was overcome with emotional about how richly God blessed me with this child. He's 20 years old now and I still look at him and know that all the bumps along the way were really nothing. <BR/><BR/>You also know that I'm an older mom to my girls. I turned 44 just a few days after Gwenny was placed in my arms. A year later, I became a mom again to Maddy at the age of 45. There are so many advantages to being an older mom and you're going to be a FANTASTIC mommy! I know this for a certainty because I've met you in person and I've seen into your heart via this blog. Tate is so lucky!<BR/><BR/>Biggest hugs to you, my friend.<BR/><BR/>Donna<BR/>Our Blog: <A HREF="http://2happy.typepad.com" REL="nofollow">Double Happiness!</A>Donnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15717351421043156637noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19727179.post-11997918426518718202009-03-05T10:10:00.000-07:002009-03-05T10:10:00.000-07:00Just thinking and worrying about things should be ...Just thinking and worrying about things should be an indication that you will be a great Mom. All Mom's do that!! Worry about the unknown and everything that can happen. Your Tate will need only your love and hugs. Everything else is extra. It doesn't matter how many toys or how much money you have, it matters how big your heart is. And to start and stay with this long wait and the ups and downs the way you have, you have everything it takes to be a great Mom.<BR/>I can't wait to see you with Tate in your arms and see the glow on your face. Enjoy the trip and hug the kids and time will pass quickly. LindaLindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10139900762615875346noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19727179.post-30229796238142450032009-03-05T09:06:00.000-07:002009-03-05T09:06:00.000-07:00Doubt and terror -- sounds about right. :-) I was ...Doubt and terror -- sounds about right. :-) I was completely panicked right beforehand. I don't know (since I've never been pregnant) but I'll bet all first-time moms have that last-minute feeling of "holy crap what have I done!?" regardless of whether they're about to give birth or receive a referral.<BR/><BR/>You'll be a GREAT mom. Great. :-)M3https://www.blogger.com/profile/13775708069296721624noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19727179.post-24172233925959413142009-03-05T08:20:00.000-07:002009-03-05T08:20:00.000-07:00You will be fine. It's the realization of a dream....You will be fine. It's the realization of a dream. We are in love with the dream and when that stops and reality hits, it scares us senseless. Next month you will be able to be in love with your new reality. I am so hoping for a quick March for you.Andreahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10895249914269021769noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19727179.post-72201744712485300332009-03-05T08:00:00.000-07:002009-03-05T08:00:00.000-07:00You are not alone in feeling that way. I harbour ...You are not alone in feeling that way. I harbour many of those same feelings. <BR/><BR/>And after all this time and us steeling ourselves to disappointment, it is hard and will take a bit of time for our defences to go down and allow our hearts to be open again.<BR/><BR/>Keep smilin!4Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15497882301211681198noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19727179.post-41220087418893116302009-03-05T06:20:00.000-07:002009-03-05T06:20:00.000-07:00Oh Lisa, you expressed so many of my own feelings ...Oh Lisa, you expressed so many of my own feelings so well. Becoming a mother was the scariest thing I have ever done. It is also the BEST thing that has ever happened in my life. Soon it will be your turn. Soon your daughter will be in your arms. Soon you will experience a love that you have never dreamed possible.<BR/><BR/>I still have doubts and fears...different doubts and fears than the ones I had right before I adopted. I think it is just part of the package of being a mother.<BR/><BR/>By the way, being an older mother myself...I can relate to your worries. Menopause and a two-year old is an interesting combination :) Sometimes I think there is a reason most people have children when they are young and still have energy. Then I think, wait a minute...I still have energy...so I pretend to have energy...and go to bed exhausted every night. Exhausted but happy!!!<BR/><BR/>You will be fine. Hang in there!<BR/><BR/>(The picture that my daughter drew of the Cat in the Hat on my blog really didn't have four eyes...he just had cheeks...two eyes and two cheeks. She draws belly buttons on people too and sometimes little lines for teeth that makes all her people look like monsters. See what you have to look forward too!!!)Staceyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17515794651422735221noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19727179.post-53815101592767395262009-03-05T05:18:00.000-07:002009-03-05T05:18:00.000-07:00I am still so far away from referral but know how ...I am still so far away from referral but know how you feel. I have those same doubts and fears. <BR/><BR/>Although I've never met you in person, I can tell from reading your blog that you will be an AMAZING mother to Tate! You will overcome your fears and all will be well the minute you see her face.<BR/><BR/>Hang in there :o)Suziehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02171178800883445977noreply@blogger.com